Posted by Rob Minton
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Two articles on USAToday.com this morning kind of sum up this recession for the average U.S. citizen.
One article explains that all the government borrowing and spending meant to pull us out of this recession will put an extra $55,000 or so tax burden on each household in the U.S. That's the biggest bump in the bill our government has asked us to pay since expanding Medicare coverage in 2003. It means that while unemployment is rising and incomes are falling, our household debt is growing.
The other article says that banks will attempt to cover some of their losses by hiking fees, this time on checking accounts. So even though legislation was drawn up to protect us from banks taking it out on consumers by raising credit card interest rates, the financial institutions that are so much to blame for this whole economic mess are still finding ways to pass the cost of it onto their customers.
Read these two articles, and your first reaction might be "This just isn't fair."
And you know what? You're right. It isn't.
But in this recession, not much has been fair. True, some Wall Street firms have paid the price for being too greedy, but how many innocent bystanders to this mess have had to pay a price, too?
It's not fair that your home equity line has been taken away from you, even if you've never been late on a payment. It's not fair that your neighbors, who might skip a house payment or two, can get their loans "modified" while you, even though you've done all the right things, can't even refinance to take advantage of lower home loan rates.
If you're a real estate investor, it's not fair that your assets have dropped in value because of the foreclosures in the neighborhoods where your investments are located. If you're a retiree, it's not fair that your nest egg has shrunk because stocks and mutual funds have been dragged down by this mess.
It's not fair that the many must suffer because of the mistakes of the few.
It hurts; I know. But I also know this: We must accept that this whole situation is unfair. And then we must move on.
Here's the thing: We can't control "fair." In fact, in much of life, we can't control what happens to us. We can only control how we react to it. If you get all caught up in "This is unfair," it can paralyze you. Complaining that everything is unfair will get you nowhere.
As I said, we must just accept the unfairness. We must not let "unfair" distract us from our goals. Don't let the things you can do nothing about get in the way of the things you CAN do something about.
Credit card interest rates are higher? Yep, so get to work on that debt.
The value of your home has dropped? Yep, so challenge your property tax assessment.
Gas prices are climbing again? Yep, so try to drive a little less.
It is so easy to complain about the things you can't control. It's so easy to get caught up in "It's not fair." But this will get you nowhere fast. The saying goes, "Grin and bear it." I have found that if you can just accept that there will be unfairness along the way, it will be easier to stick to your plan.
And if it helps you to believe in the Karma thing -- what goes around comes around -- and hang onto that hope that if you just keep doing everything right you will somehow be rewarded in the end, then fine, believe that the unfairness will be made up to you. But if you can actually take action instead of complaining "It isn't fair," then I guarantee you will be better off in the end.
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